Emotional Pain, Continued

From Nikola Tesla: “As I said above, emotional pain must be faced and experienced in order to be dealt with effectively, else it takes up more and more of your human self’s energy. However, you are generally given very few tools to do this; in addition, the greater part of your culture promotes surface solutions to surface problems, and emotional pain can run very, very deep. Especially in a consumer-driven culture where you are taught, indeed, practically browbeaten into looking for solutions outside of yourself, the idea of going into those alien depths of your old hurts or new pain quite intimidates you. What would you do down there, in the midst of your misery, feelings of rejection, loss, shock and grief? How can you work with these things? Better, far better, to pacify them, throwing the meat to Cerberus at the gates of Hell and turning back, rather than confronting the beast any further. 

“Now: it is no mistake that the name for Hell’s guardian and the brain’s most mental part, the cerebrum, have exactly the same root: in their instinctive wisdom the Greeks realized that the mind could both guard those depths by coming up with more than one threat, more than one answer: when you want to go into your deep, painful emotions the mind will always come up with multiple reasons why you should not, up to and including that it’s someone else’s fault, that doing so will damage or at least debilitate you, or at the very least that the whole project is terrifying and unwise to attempt. But if the mind is Hell’s guardian, what is the piece of meat you can throw to pacify it? Oddly enough, perhaps, it’s surrender: the willingness to be vulnerable, to be ‘at affect’ of your fear, grief, loneliness and despair, but, as Orpheus threw the meat but did not stay long enough to become Cerberus’ dessert, so also you need to feel the grief or other emotional pain but remain just enough aloof that you do not get consumed.”

To be continued.., 

Pain in the Spirit and Soul

From Nikola Tesla: “As we were talking of emotional pain, the thing to remember is to experience the emotional pain rather than run from it for that is the way the emotional pain can be healed. Your culture does you a great disservice if it tells you: “Be a man! Stop sniveling!” or, “Stop being a Little Miss Crybaby!” these old messages last for decades, in part because they were given to you before your conscious mind was adroit enough to understand how limited they were. Emotional pain, if not faced, can act like a black hole, warping everything around it and eventually eating you alive.

“Spiritual pain, the pain in the soul, is somewhat like emotional pain in that it needs to be confronted in order to be healed. However, the pain of your spirit, which we will define as your source of inspiration, courage, wonder and awe, joy and often your creativity, seems subtle at first, perhaps too subtle to fathom. However, an ache in your spirit can also weigh you down: if your inspiration, creativity and sense of wonders are constantly put down, belittled or, worse yet, used by another for his own purposes, this ache can render your days gray and meaningless or written in shapes of agony and worse than meaningless: the spirit’s pain leads directly to hopeless and despair, for it is also caused by those.

The soul’s pain can manifest in astonishingly paradoxical ways: it could lead to a series of lives that are all one type: frustrating and useless or self-destructive and damaging; the soul’s pain can develop life after life of self-sacrifice with little healing to follow: these are the lives of someone who gives and gives until he or she is empty. Oddly enough, you can heal your soul by using your mind, through your emotions to re-energize your spirit: in short, to see that weight of the past patterns and use your mind to clear them emotionally and release them within the power of your own spirit.

The Messages and Lessons of Pain

From Nikola Tesla: “Each of your experiential bodies feels its own kind of pain. Emotional pain can be sharp and hard, even sharper than many forms of physical pain, and can often last for a lifetime. It seems strange to talk about mental pain: isn’t the mind, rather like the brain, unable to feel pain in itself? Perhaps there is some truth to this, but you can certainly have the mental pain of frustration: if you are recovering from a stroke or brain injury, or if you have some form of congenital birth issue that causes your brain to operate very differently from the norm, you definitely feel pain in the forms of frustration, the ache of loss or lack, the grief of being unable to act, communicate or express.

“Almost everyone is familiar with emotional pain, but too many try and avoid it as though it were physical pain. As I said earlier, it is wise, and promoted by your own DNA, to pull away from physical pain in order to lessen the damage: that is indeed the message of physical pain: run or fight the thing that is causing you the physical harm so that you may live.

“However, running away from emotional pain is very unwise: unlike physical pain, which is limited by the very nature of your physical body (too much damage kills you), emotional pain as said above can last for a lifetime, and can be as crippling as any physical injury, and perhaps more. When you are feeling physical pain, you may lash out at someone helping you, but when the pain goes away you can apologize. However, not only does the emotional pain last longer, it does not have the same capacity to strike out: emotional pain will try to heal itself by lashing out, but lashing out or harming another to drive the emotional pain away does nothing to heal your emotional pain.”