From Nikola Tesla: “Another way, paradoxically, that you can hold onto emotions without being fully aware that you are doing so is by blame. Blaming is an infant soul’s way of coping: the youngest souls are not strong and capable enough to withstand remorse: the awareness of the effects upon others or yourself of a wrong that you have committed. It takes tremendous courage and power of soul to perceive, discern, assess and accept when and where you have acted in a loveless manner. However, it is only though realizing and accepting your personal agency within your actions and thus the effects of your actions that you can even hope to begin to change.
“The challenge of Earth is, as has been said elsewhere in numerous presentations: you create your own reality. For an inexperienced soul, the very concept of creating anything seems very simple and very hard: coming as it does from the very Core of Creativity, it feels creativity is simple because it has been submerged in the original creative energies since it was given its identity so that creativity is as simple and automatic as breathing. However, any human soul also remembers its origins in the divine Love that regards its creations (and therefore itself) with tolerance, acceptance and understanding in all things: this is the Heaven from which we all come.
“However, when “you create your own reality” reveals itself to be not a simple thing of ideas pushing other ideas into new shapes, but rather a physical experience, the younger soul is quite at a loss about what to do. Previously, everything was accepted: all feelings were legitimate; all consequences were mild or even nonexistent; all of your actions were given immediate scope; all of your whims were gratified.
“It is always such a tremendous shock when the new soul realizes that everything is different on the Earth: too different. Not only is its disparity of energies only held together loosely by semi-conducting states, all choices lead to results that last. The fundamentally ephemeral nature of Heaven is gone.”
From Nikola Tesla: “There is another, stranger aspect regarding emotional pain that may be another reason why men in particular, who are always watchful for things that might make them feel smaller or lesser, tend to avoid examining their emotional pain: the peculiar truth that you can become attached to emotional pain for hidden reasons. This is strange, scary and spooky for anyone that has resisted understanding emotions in the first place: not only are these volatile, powerful and inexplicable things called “feelings” strange and unusual to begin with, they often have emotional payoffs that keep the feelings in place whether you want them held inside of not.
“For those that are familiar with the saying, “You’d rather be right than happy,” this kind of statement is one of the ways to perceive those hidden motivations that keep feelings of hurt and emotions of anger right close to you. If you believe that the only way to be a satisfactory human being is to always have the right answer, do the right thing, be the only one that knows the right way and so on, then you will cling to any emotions of rage, outrage, hurt and bitterness that you can: you need the fuel these emotions and feelings provide you in order to reassure yourself that you are on top, in control and therefore acceptable to that inner part of you that judges you with the ancient, draconian sentences of shame for not being perfect enough.
“And that is the real reason why emotions are scary to many: too many negative emotions are wrapped up, as though in barbed wire, in feelings or fears of inadequacy which, of course, are anathema for those of you that must know for sure and for certain that you are always on the top, in control and definitely more than adequate. Again, this shows how powerful and perilous becoming vulnerable can be, yet the hidden fear of inadequacy is not the only hidden reason why you might cling to negative emotions.”
From Nikola Tesla: “Emotional pain is often not dealt with for three reasons: it’s scary; it’s overwhelming; it’s unknown. Especially for men, who have not only received little or no training in emotions, they have actually been quite ferociously persuaded out of feelings altogether. Men are not allowed to be either weak or vulnerable, moved by emotional pain or even sensitive to their finer feelings. Granted, there are some genetic mandates for this: if you are hunting, you need to be quiet on the trail and not given to emotional displays, and when you are fighting for your life, all pain must be put aside. However, although getting emotional or feeling about a scientific experiment does seem counter-productive at first, it has resulted in a soulless use of technology.
“But the main reason why men are taught out of emotions to the point that they cannot deal with emotional pain is so that they can wage war. If you don’t feel your own pain you cannot feel another’s; if you don’t care for the other person as women might, then you can be victorious in battle because it is hard to kill someone you care for! Yes, it can be argued that it is emotions that drive men to “crimes of passion,” murdering your wife’s lover and the like, yet in truth, it is not the emotions themselves but the pressure under which the painful emotions have been kept: the bottled-up, tamped down and disdained emotional hurts that reach a place of such pressure that they must explode and then, indeed, it seems as though your emotions have overwhelmed and ruined you. However, if you had worked with the emotional pain beforehand, if you had recognized your emotions for what they were and were wise in dealing with them, the explosion would very likely never have happened in the first place, much less lead to murder and worse.
“In short: it is not the emotions that are scary but your vulnerability to them! You can be swept up, swept away and swept under even good and healing emotions, much less the emotions of hurt, loss, betrayal, grief and so on. Yet, feeling your emotions, even the painful ones, allows your response to become supple and responsive.”